Mom's who give up their rights

Last week on Dr. Phil he had a women on that gave up her parental rights to her soon  to be Ex-husband to travel and write a book. People were outraged by this saying it was wrong and children need their mothers and how bad of a person she was for giving up her children, I will have you know that she only lived three miles away from them and saw them all the time.. Who are you to tell these to people what is best for their children, and what kind a message are sending to are children that their Dad's are not important enough that they do not need to bond with them to.WELL I have of very different opinion on this subject. As you know if you have read my Bio I was raised in an all male family (DAD and 2 brothers) the reason I was raised by my Dad is because my Mom left when I was about 5 to join the Army yes I said the Army.


When I was 6 or 7 she was stationed in another state about a 8 hour drive from here and we seen her every other weekend for awhile and then just in the summer then just before my 9th birthday she was stationed in Germany and we only seen her in the summers for about a month or so we always could reach her day or night by phone but that was about it when I was about 15 I did not see her again till I was 18 and a senior in high school. but again I could always reach her by phone and she could always reach us.


I do not regret the way I grew up my Dad did a great job at being Mom and Dad. I had a lot of friends that were raised by single Mom's and feel like they missed out on things by not having a Dad around, For me this is not the case at least when I was young as I get older sometimes I think I may have missed out on the adult bond girls have with their MOM's simply because when I saw her after so many years we hit heads on a lot of things, The last time I saw her I was a girl and when she came back to the states I was grown up and I think that was hard for her and me we had missed some of the most important years of my life together. But now after some time and getting through are own issues we are kinda getting a relationship back together. I have never been mad at for her for leaving us if that is what she thought she needed to do at that time in her life then great for her.


My Dad is my Mom and Dad and will always be that to me. My mom is my mom and the grandmother to my children and that is about it on that. We see her once a year for about 3 or 4 days and then she goes back to her life in another state and we go back to are lives here. We talk often on the phone and that is fine right now for both of us. As for my Dad well he has done are daycare since Wyatt was 21/2 years old and has cody since he was born so he has been taking care of them for about 11 years now I could not ask for a better Dad he has been so good to Chad and I.


So to all you DAD"S out their raising your kid's more power to you!! and to all you mom's out their if you think this is the BEST for your children GO FOR IT!! I speak from experience... 


You can not be good parent if you are not happy, and that is not good for your children it will do more harm than good..So for all you parents who are staying together for your kid's do not do this they will regret you in the long run.. I have friends that grew up this way and wished their parents would have just got a divorce. Their childhood would have been a lot better......


I think now their are a lot more single Dad's out their raising kid's . When my Dad was doing this it was not very common....   :-)

I love the weekend

So I was a lazy girl this weekend.. Got absolutely nothing done!!  I guess I did get something done I went food shopping but that is about it. Hung out with the family all weekend and ate and watched T.V. and of course played on Facebook.. 


It really seemed like a long weekend.  I did not watched anything really interesting except today when I was playing Bejeweled Blitz I had a show called Bridezilla on in the back round and all I really can say is girls if your Husband thinks you are a Bitch make him watch this show he will be thankful that he married you and not these girls..


 Wow if they took comments through the T.V. I would have told most of these girls to grow up and get over them selfs, All I have to say is Thank God all of the weddings I was in (and it was a lot of them) I would have walked out the door and told them to F-off. Wow it is a wedding the way these girls were acting like  they did not deserve to get married let alone to have any friends. And where are their parents in all this it is so ridiculous.


If these girls are still married for any length of time I will be surprised. The Boyfriends were treated like dogs and the girls thought  this day was all about them last time I checked it takes two to make a marriage and the day is about the both of them.


I know when I got married my Husband was apart of all the planning he even helped me pick out the Bridesmaids dresses. That is a real MAN!  


So remember this Ladies if you truly want a PERFECT wedding remember that something will more than likely go wrong and it is only ONE day in the rest of your lives together.. Have fun because it goes by quickly and reality comes back..


Even though we have had are tough times through the years marrying my BEST FRIEND  turned out to be the best thing because no matter what we have been through are friendship seems to get us through everything so far.....  


So with this HAPPY ANNIVERSARY ( 10/1/94) 15 years and still counting..... Love you honey...  Even though we are not celebrating it till NOV.  :-)